Go Easy On Yourself

Ruby S. Bernardo - "If you must forgive and be forgiven, neglect not, the one person who probably carries a large amount of guilt, and needs absolution - the most. When God forgives, it's total. Shouldn't you, bestow yourself the same unconditional pardon?". "Take it easy on yourself - the world's interestingly brutal:-) enough as it is:-)"

Not forgetting doesn't necessarily mean holding a grudge. To me at least, it simply means we have memory banks of things that have happened to us. Mostly of incidents that have impacted our lives whether "bad" or "good" that are stored witting or unwittingly in our memories, which become parts of us.

We can either choose to learn from, and better ourselves with or embitter us (those that are disconcerting) and inflate our egos or make us more humble and open to more opportunities (with the ones that are "good").

I say (mostly to myself) forgive and let go of the pain, and if the memory of the "moment" or incident comes back, treat it as any other occurrence. Labeling it neither "good", nor "bad". Just a "teacher" disguised as an experience.

And yes, amen to empathy for anyone and everyone asking for forgiveness. In the end, we are the hardest on ourselves. Who better to be gentlest with our fragile hearts than us:-